Your engagement session is an exciting milestone, but it can also come with some common missteps that can impact the experience and the final images. As a wedding photographer, I’ve learned that a few small adjustments can make a big difference in how relaxed and authentic your session feels. To help you get the most out of your time, here are the top mistakes to avoid during your engagement session:

1. Overthinking Your Outfits

While it’s important to feel confident in what you wear, stressing too much over your outfits can take away from the experience. Many couples worry about looking too coordinated or trying to follow trends, but the key is to choose outfits that make you feel comfortable and true to yourselves. If you’re uncomfortable in your clothes, it will show in the photos. Avoid outfits that feel too restrictive, and instead go for something that you would normally wear when you want to look and feel your best.

Tip: Stick to neutral or softer tones, which tend to photograph beautifully, and steer clear of loud patterns or logos that can be distracting.

2. Not Preparing for the Weather

While we can’t control the weather, we can prepare for it! One of the biggest mistakes couples make is not checking the forecast or being ready for less-than-perfect weather. Whether it’s unexpected heat, cold, or rain, dressing appropriately and being flexible can help ensure that your session is enjoyable no matter what Mother Nature throws our way.

Tip: Bring layers if it’s cold, or wear breathable fabrics if it’s hot. For rain, a cute umbrella can add charm and spontaneity to your photos!

3. Forgetting to Bring Personal Elements

An engagement session is more than just taking pretty pictures—it’s about capturing who you are as a couple. Many couples miss out on making their session truly personal by forgetting to bring elements that tell their story. Whether it’s your favorite hobby, a special memento, or even your pet, incorporating personal touches makes the session feel more authentic and uniquely yours.

Tip: Think about items or activities that represent your relationship and bring them to the shoot. It could be something simple, like a blanket for a picnic setup or a book you both love.

4. Worrying Too Much About Posing

One of the most common concerns I hear from couples is about posing. The idea of “getting it right” can make you feel stiff or uncomfortable. But the truth is, the best photos are often the candid, in-between moments when you’re just being yourselves. I’ll guide you into natural poses, but try not to focus too much on how you’re standing or whether you’re smiling “the right way.”

Tip: Relax and trust the process. I’ll provide gentle direction, but some of the most beautiful photos come from when you let go and enjoy the moment with your partner.

5. Skipping Hair and Makeup

While it might be tempting to forgo professional hair and makeup for your engagement session, it can make a significant difference in how polished and confident you feel. Even if you want a natural look, a professional makeup artist can enhance your features in a way that photographs well, especially in different lighting conditions.

Tip: Consider booking your wedding hair and makeup trial for the same day as your engagement session. It’s a great opportunity to see how your look translates on camera.

6. Not Considering Timing and Light

Lighting is one of the most important aspects of photography, and it can completely change the mood and feel of your engagement photos. Some couples schedule their session in the middle of the day when the sun is harsh, leading to unflattering shadows and squinting. The best time for photos is during the “golden hour,” which is just after sunrise or before sunset.

Tip: Plan your session around the golden hour to take advantage of the soft, romantic light that flatters skin tones and creates a beautiful glow.

7. Bringing Too Many Props

While personal props can add meaning to your session, bringing too many can clutter the photos and distract from the connection between you and your partner. Some couples bring an overwhelming number of items that take the focus off the relationship, which is the heart of the session.

Tip: Choose a few meaningful items that enhance the photos rather than overpower them. A well-chosen prop or two can be a great addition, but it’s important to keep the focus on your relationship.

8. Not Communicating with Your Photographer

Your engagement session is a collaboration, and not communicating with your photographer about your vision or concerns can lead to missed opportunities. Whether you have a specific idea in mind or you’re worried about how the session will go, it’s essential to share your thoughts. I want you to feel confident and excited, and clear communication ensures we’re on the same page.

Tip: Don’t hesitate to share any specific ideas, inspiration, or questions before the session. The more I know about your preferences, the more personalized the experience will be.

Conclusion

An engagement session is an opportunity to celebrate your relationship and capture memories that will last a lifetime. By avoiding these common mistakes and focusing on what feels authentic to you, we can create images that reflect your love story in the most beautiful way. Remember, this is a fun and joyful experience—so relax, be yourselves, and let’s create something amazing together!